By Portia Frimpong Manso
20th August, 2021

Love is the most uttered word in the dictionary, sometimes intended to mean like or admire.
This four lettered word is abused in diverse ways to mean different things to different people who confuse it with their current state of emotion. It is used to keep some people in deception, ever heard of the phrase '' I did it because I loved her'', I didn't tell you because I loved you''? Love does not deceive. It compromises.. That is why you are not perfect and yet your partner is the dream guy or lady everyone wished they had. That is why you have no higher qualifications and yet you are with someone who is out of your league... That is why you have scars and yet Mr /Miss perfect says you are just fine ..
Due to the lack of the real understanding of the word love,someone will meet you just for two seconds and tell you that I love you... I mean (lol chairman /chairwoman that is not possible)..
Love grows, it starts with like, admiration and delves deeper into protection and i cannot live without you(lol which we all know we can). Love is work,you need to work at it constantly to see growth. It starts from small beginnings and becomes more and more as you keep working on it.
An understanding of how love works will give you a better marriage life :where you both can massage situations so that it does not affect your marital journey .Remember love will hide in the corner when storms are brewing , love will almost turn into hate when mistakes are made, love will dissappear when disappointments are served on a hot plate like waakye (lol) ... It is not just a trivial word that you can utter anyhow, make sure you understand it before you use it, make sure you mean it enough to say it and make sure that you are ready to follow any consequences that will follow your declaration..
Love is when you still care about a person aside from the visual representation, in that you care even after the person has lost a leg, an eye, ear, nose or arm.. It does not expire easily..Many Westerners divorce and cite '' irreconcilable differences '' as the cause but in a nut shell what they mean to say is that their love has expired.. That expiration started with little things they both chose to ignore..
Money, property cannot sustain love.. Poverty can also not sustain love... The only thing that can sustain love is constantly working on each other, looking for better ways to fix any void that has been created by past dissaggrements and understanding each other and doing things that both of you are okay with...
Never change your body's anatomy because of love, never do something in the moment just because you are in love, you might live to regret it... Don't let a relationship weigh you down, you should be free in your relationship because afterall you have not sold your freedom : you just wanted companionship..
After all is said and done, love should not make you worry, cry or loose sleep on a daily basis... Rather it should relax and make you feel better after a harsh day..Free yourself from any bondage of a relationship that you are not happy with, life is too short ..
You might want to rethink, the next time you would want to say I '' love'' you ..
#Peace.

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