Mutuality In Marriage
By Brand X
12th February, 2022
THE LAMP DEVOTION
30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband
Jesus teaches one truth that humanity has struggled with over several generations. People struggle to love simply for the sake of love. The bible makes us understand that despite we being sinners, God showed His love for us. The situation with us however is that we want people to earn our love. We want to show acts of love only to people we think deserve them. Unconsciously, we bring this attitude into the marriage relationship and find every reason under the sun to justify it.
There is a school of thought for example that says that if a woman is submissive, she earns more love from the husband. It is also said that a woman submits to her husband if he loves her. We got it all wrong. These are all wrong interpretations of Paul’s teaching to the church in Ephesus as per this passage.
God loves us no matter what and we should each love our spouse no matter what. The wife must respect her husband no matter what. This leads us to mutuality in love and respect. At the end of the day, we both love each other and respect and honor each other. If you are a husband and hold the opinion that your wife must submit for you to love her, you need to repent. What if God demands the same of you? Let us stop talking about compatibility and conditional outreach to each other. Let’s commit to mutuality – mutual trust, mutual love, mutual respect, mutual support, etc.
Thank God for the beautiful institution of marriage between a man and woman.
Pray that if you are married you will operate the mutuality principle with your spouse.
Father, please help me to love and respect my spouse.
I believe that mutuality is a powerful principle in human relationships, especially where people are married. God loves me and He expects me to reciprocate His love in the best way possible. I embrace the principle and set my heart to follow it in the name of Jesus.